” Some are born to move the world, to live their fantasies, but most of us just dream about the things we’d like to be.”
As time matches on, our interests become subject to change but one component of our personal lives remains the same for those who choose to take the chance and that is their ability to dream big.
Racing fans dream of winning the Indy 500, football fans dream of winning the Super Bowl, Scientists dream of making the next big discovery. While the number of actual success stories is relatively small, some people never make it out of the starting blocks for a number of reasons. Some reasons are beyond their control, some fail simply from a lack of effort, some suffer from a fear of failure, but the vast majority of unrealized potential arrises simply from a lack of effort.
I’m a competitor but not what I’d consider an athlete. I’m an academic but certainly not a genius. I’m an introvert but not a big fan of absolute solitude. I’m socially awkward and uncomfortable with strangers but I have zero trouble speaking to groups of persons or putting what I believe into the written word for all to read. I’m a walking contradiction…and I’m a big dreamer.
The upside to being a big dreamer is that I’m never at a loss for motivation. Motivation can be a double edged sword and if your source of motivation is to prove your skills and worth to others you’re doomed to failure. If your source of motivation is to prove something to yourself, the motivational well will never run dry. You will no doubt suffer setbacks and the inability to realize 100% of your dreams can (and often does) lead to disappointment and periods of doubt and depression, the “you have to be in it to win it” mindset allows you to “right the ship” and fight on. Dreaming big has both up and down sides to it…know that going into it.
From the moment I decided to purchase a set of clubs and commit myself to learning the game from a PGA Professional Instructor, I dared to dream big. In order to do so, I had to set aside other interests, some of those interests I’d been involved in and was successful in for over 30 years and some of those interests others enjoyed as much as I did. My having to do this was only two of several sacrifices I had to make to dream big. There are no casualties when making life decisions. The only safe way out is to never make a decision in the first place…never dream big to begin with. This was NEVER an option. Some things we do in life are because we have to, some things we do in life are because we choose to. Dreaming big is an act we are compelled to do. We have no choice because it’s our calling. We are drawn to it and it consumes us, blindly guiding us towards a new path that is both exciting and frightful at the same time. It opens us up to praise and criticism, success and failure, clarity and insanity. It’s the same strong and compelling allure as our favorite food, a fast car, the open skies, and the heartfelt allure of a significant other. Fight it as you may…it will eventually get to you unless you’re capable of completely ignoring its gravitational pull. I ignored the calling of the game of golf for 25 years…I can ignore it no longer.
When I practice, it’s if I’m practicing for the U.S. Open. When I play, I’m playing for the lead at the British Open and when I train, I’m training to earn my PGA Tour Card. In my heart and mind…I can quality for the tour even though the reality of the matter is that I have a less than 1% chance of making the tour. In all honesty it matters not what the odds are. I have to be “in it” to “win it” and my degree of achievement will not be adversely effected by inability to dream big. They will only be effected by the degree of effort I put into learning the game and playing it well.
Amateur tournaments are in my future, I have no doubt about that. I’m shooting for the sky, setting my sights high, and giving this new venture all I have. This venture that seems to have come out of nowhere has been a well kept secret. It’s been in the making for 25 years. I’m no longer afraid to switch gears and pay attention to this driving force in my personal life. It’s time to make it happen.
It’s time to dream big…